Woman states that ‘chivalry is in fact dead’ after no men offer her a seat on the subway – sparks fiery debate

A woman has sparked a debate around chivalry after sharing a video showing her experience as a woman on the subway.

In a viral video being widely shared across social media, the TikToker shared a now-deleted video of herself standing in a subway carriage, with the on-screen text reading: “Chivalry is in fact dead. What happened to the days when men offered women their seats???”

The video then pans around the carriage showing a number of men simply sitting in their seats and going about their day.

And although the original creator removed her video, it was reshared via duets and stitches by other TikTok users – sparking a huge debate on the social media platform.

One TikToker who responded to the original video was user @saraeatonontiktok, who said in her video: “Is it not what women have been fighting for? Equality. Screaming at the top of their lungs for independence. So, what do you need a man to get up and give you a seat?

“You should have been there on time like a man to find your own seat.”

She then argued that the original video is an example of some women wanting to “nitpick and choose” when men are expected to behave a certain way to women – before calling out the woman who recorded the video for filming strangers on the subway.

And it wasn’t long before the comments blew up, with one person writing: “It’s called chivalry. Only people with class would understand.”

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To which, somebody replied: “It’s called equality. Only people with a brain would understand.”

Plenty of men also shared their thoughts on the situation, with one guy writing: “If a woman is elderly, disabled, VERY pregnant or otherwise physically unable to stand then I offer my seat. Otherwise, equality applies.”

Another agreed, typing: “My chivalry is enabled only for the PWDs [people with disabilities], elderly, and pregnant.”

When should you offer your set on public transport?

Priority Seating: Most public transport systems designate priority seating for elderly passengers, pregnant women, individuals with disabilities, and those with young children. If you’re sitting in one of these seats and someone who fits these categories boards the vehicle, it’s customary to offer them your seat.

Observation: Even if you are not in a designated priority seat, you should still keep an eye out for passengers who might need a seat more than you do. This could include individuals who fall into the aforementioned brackets, or who are visibly struggling to stand, carrying heavy loads, or appear unsteady on their feet.

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Offering Politely: If you notice someone who could benefit from a seat, offer it politely. Respect their response; some people may decline if they’re only traveling a short distance or prefer to stand.

Awareness of Surroundings: Be mindful of your surroundings, especially during peak travel times when the vehicle may be crowded. Offering your seat can make the journey more comfortable for someone in need and contribute to a positive commuting experience for everyone.

So, is chivalry dead? Let us know your thoughts in the comments.